Social Media

Chris  —  February 22, 2016 — Leave a comment

I don’t feel that I am addicted to social media…but I do feel I spend more time reading status updates and posts than I really need to.

Maybe you feel that way too?

My common reaction when looking at my phone is to tap Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter…scroll, scroll, scroll…then tap the next social media platform…scroll, scroll, scroll.

I recently decided I am tired of it.

I also decided I don’t want my daughter to grow up with her image of me being one of me looking at my phone screen.

No…this is not my “I am deleting all social media” rant/post. I don’t feel the need to do that. But I started asking myself a question…

Do I really need to know what everyone is doing, eating, or thinking 24 hours a day?

The answer is simple. No.

So a couple of weeks ago I took all my social media apps, dumped them in a folder, and moved them off the front page of apps on my phone.

I loosely set “rules” on how I was going to use social media.

  1. Don’t check first thing in the morning or last thing before bed.
  2. Don’t check during the day while working.
  3. Don’t check while eating with my family…like during dinner.
  4. Check only when posting a picture/update and check quickly.
  5. Basically don’t check often…if at all.

The first few days I found myself tapping my phone screen where my social media icons once were almost every time I pulled my phone out of my pocket. If I was really bored and needed something to do…I would read the news, a book on my Kindle App, or the Bible.

It’s been great caring less about what everyone else is doing. But don’t mistake that for not caring at all!

I just don’t need to know how many times you worked out today, how much you hate Hillary or Trump, or how awesome you or your significant other is. If you really want to talk about those things…call or text me.

I challenge you to spend less time online and more time in real life and see if you notice anything different. My guess is you might even be a little more present, happy, and productive.

I came across this song the other day and think it’s a great reminder…enjoy!

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Chris  —  February 17, 2016 — Leave a comment

It’s been awhile since I’ve written anything here…

It’s been over a year…and there wasn’t even much before that!

For years I wrote almost daily. Most of it was silliness and nonsense, but I wrote.

I miss writing…but I have other responsibilities to fill my hours. A bride, child, house, job, and life take up my time.

Lately I’ve been learning a lot…

I’ve learned that I love learning…but I learn in different ways than most others.

I’ve learned what I want and don’t want to do and spend my time on.

I’ve learned a lot about myself and a lot about others.

I want more…

I want to write more.

I want to learn more.

I want to be available more.

Here’s to writing more in 2016!

I often say “circles are better than rows”

It’s great to sit in rows at church on Sunday morning…but real life change happens with you are sitting in a circle, with people, sharing life together.

In Santa Rosa I got to lead a great small group of young adults that I love! Our group was a random mix of people from Kansas, Michigan, Colorado, and all over California. Some were students, some were professionals…all of us were just trying to figure out our relationship with Jesus.

Sometimes we needed to just have a fun night of hanging out, eating dinner or ice cream, or playing games.

Catch Phrase Night is the most fun I’ve ever had in a small group. My buddy Seth LOVES Catch Phrase…and is a little intense at times.

Thanks for a great two years of growing together! I love and miss you all!

Everyone loves meetings right?

Tripp and Tyler’s new video Every Meeting Ever pretty much sums up meetings for most people.

Their new book Stuff You Should Know About Stuff: How to Properly Behave in Certain Situations should probably be purchased based on the cover alone. Especially if you are like the guy on the right side of the cover.

The funny guys sent me a copy a few weeks ago and I can’t wait to read it! At my old office there was a man with a bowtie who would try talking to me everyday at the urinal. He obviously didn’t have a clue and it was always super awkward. Don’t be that guy…buy the book!

Dear President Obama…

Chris  —  September 23, 2014 — Leave a comment

Your Obamacare plan isn’t working. Let me explain…

obamacare

I found out in January that my wife was pregnant with our first child! This was extremely exciting news for our family…I was going to be a dad!

Unfortunately, the week after I found out I was going to be a dad…my benefits at work were cut. I work for a startup and as with most businesses these days, money is tight. Our health benefits had to go in order to keep the company alive and avoid any layoffs. I am still very thankful for my job, but losing my healthcare benefits was and is a big hit for my family.

Fortunately for me (or so I thought) the Affordable Care Act aka Obamacare had just begun. I was able to enroll in a plan that was kinda sorta (but not really) close to my plan from work. It was more expensive than when I had purchased insurance in the past (fail #1)…but this was my only other option right?

I checked the BlueShield website (my new provider) and saw I could still use my same doctor and was able to find out what was and wasn’t going to be covered…or so I thought.

As my daughters due date came closer, we knew we had to pick a pediatrician for her soon. My wife started researching various doctors from recommendations and matched them up with who accepted my insurance.

Upon calling the first doctors office, my wife was told they would NOT accept my insurance since it was purchased from Covered California (fail #2). I was led to believe this was my only option for buying insurance and did not know I could buy directly from BlueShield. (fail #3) We were told the insurance would have been accepted if we had purchased it directly from BlueShield and not from Covered California.

Upon further research, there was NOT a single pediatrician that would accept my insurance. Every doctor the BlueShield website told me was covered under my plan told me the same thing upon calling, “We do not accept that plan because it is Covered California, but if you purchase it through BlueShield directly we would accept it.” (fail #4)

I called BlueShield to see if they could help since open enrollment is closed and I can’t change plans. I was told that many people are having this problem and that I should just keep calling and trying more doctors until I find one that will take my insurance. (fail #5) She also claimed that these doctors should be accepting and are required to accept my insurance (fail #6) but that BlueShield was currently having a lot of problems with doctors not accepting their insurance. (fail #7) She said there was nothing they could do about it. (fail #8)

I decided to call my doctor to see if he would accept my insurance like BlueShield had promised when I signed up. He didn’t. (fail #9)

The more and more I researched the issue, the more I found I was far from alone with this problem. Broken promises, misleading advertisements, and flat-out lies seem to be the forefront of the Affordable Care Act.

Sure you can tell me to find another job with better benefits (there aren’t many where I live). Sure the doctors can tell me it’s the insurance companies fault (fail #10) and the insurance companies can tell me it’s the doctors fault (fail #11) and both of them can tell me it’s really the Affordable Care Acts fault and it should get figured out at some point. (fail #12)

But what’s the point of Obamacare if it doesn’t really work?

Why am I required to buy insurance I can not even use?

What happens if I get really sick…will any doctors care for me?

When and how is this all going to be fixed?

Does anyone think $500 a month for low-grade health insurance is affordable?

Your daughters are insured, what about mine?

I have a lot of questions. Do you have any answers?

This isn’t a democratic or republican issue. I am neither of those anyways. This is presidential issue. An American issue. A life issue. A human issue.

Mr President I thank you for leading our country the best you know how. You did everything in your power to sign this issue into our lives. Please don’t leave office without doing everything in your power to fix it.

Sincerely,
Chris Loach (US Citizen and proud new father)

Back To Work

Chris  —  September 22, 2014 — Leave a comment

It’s funny how things change…

mondays work

Maybe I do have a case of “The Mondays” today. It’s my first day back at work after having a week off to spend time with my new daughter. I can’t believe the week is already over.

It’s funny how things change once you have a kid. Maybe it’s the newness of it all and it will fade away at some point…but right now I don’t care about things like I did in the past.

Last week as I was scrolling through the news on my phone while my daughter was sleeping on my lap…I realized two things were happening outside of my little bubble.

1. iPhone preorders were live.

2. Oakland A’s Postseason Playoff Tickets were on sale.

I have waited in line for a new iPhone more times than I would like to admit. I have also been to my fair share of MLB Playoff Games in Oakland. iPhones and Oakland A’s Playoffs are two of my favorite things…my daughter!

But last week as I was holding my daughter and seeing those things pop up in the news…I didn’t seem to care. Then the iPhone came out in stores and the lines were all over the news…I again didn’t seem to care. I have a new favorite thing!

Maybe it’s cause I no longer have the money to splurge on luxuries. Or I’d rather just spend that money on my baby (cause she can never have too many clothes right?). Or those luxuries just don’t matter to me as much anymore. Or I am just so in love with my daughter that nothing else matters.

I think it’s a little of them all…but mostly I am just so in love with my daughter that nothing else matters.

Going back to work today isn’t fun, but I’ve gotta pay for those diapers some how. At least I work from home so I can see my baby whenever I want. My heart is so full of love for her!

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My Days As A Dad

Chris  —  September 16, 2014 — Leave a comment

My days have changed a bit.

My playlist now includes this…

nick lachey days

My reading list now includes this…

handling tips days

And my hobbies now include this…

huggies days

There are some poopy diapers and spit up in my days as well. My life as a dad is very different than before, but I wouldn’t change it for anything! I love my baby girl!

Thank You!

Chris  —  September 14, 2014 — Leave a comment

Baby Addie is home, happy, and healthy.

addie

Mom is home, happy, and healthy too! Thank you to the thousands of texts, Tweets, and Facebook/Instagram comments that I have not had time to reply to…sorry…I’ve got a baby to look after. Also…I am not sorry for the mass amounts of pictures, posts, and Tweets…I am just a very happy dad! I am looking forward to sleeping in my bed tonight. Or at least laying on my bed between diaper changes (Addie’s diapers, not mine).

I Am A Father!

Chris  —  September 12, 2014 — 1 Comment

Welcome to the world Addie!

Full Name: Adalynn Gale Loach

Born: September 12, 2014 at 9:36pm

Stats: 7 pounds 5 ounces 20 inches long.

Erika woke up with strong contractions at 5:45am. I worked this morning and we headed to the hospital around noon. We got admitted a couple of hours later and everyone is doing good now!

We greatly appreciate all of the name suggestions from our small group…but no one got it right.

Thanks for all the thoughts, prayers, and love everyone sent our way!

My little girl is here and I am beyond excited to be her dad!

Have you ever had someone open their mouth and ruin everything?

I am sure we have all had those “I liked you a lot better before you started talking” moments. I think it’s funny when they happen.

I came across a draft of a blog post from a couple of years ago that I never published. I decided to finish and publish it today. Enjoy!

A few days ago I was helping a customer at work. While I was helping him I was trying to look at his full sleeve tattoos. Some I liked, others I didn’t care for, but there was one that stuck out to me…it said “Prov 13:3”.

I was just about to ask the customer what Prov 13:3 said when he started dropped several f-bombs. He had forgotten something at home and was real “f-ing” mad about it. I tried to make light of the situation as he was clearly having a bad day, but decided I wasn’t going to ask him what the verse was.

When he left the store I looked up the verse and immediately wished I HAD asked him!

Proverbs 13:3 Ruin

I laughed out loud while reading that verse. “Proverbs 13:3 (NLT) Those who control their tongue will have a long life; opening your mouth can ruin everything.”

It was funny but also kind of sad. Maybe he had a hard time with words and got the tattoo as a reminder to be careful when he opens his mouth? I don’t know the story behind it.

Did his words bother me? No…not at all. He was nice to me and he was obviously having a bad day. Who knows what our conversation would have been like if I had asked him what the verse was…cause he opened his mouth and ruined the conversation before it started.

Please don’t misread this…I am clearly no better than him. I have ruined everything by opening my mouth more times than I can count. That’s part of the reason I decided to start this blog over and leave a lot of dumb stuff I’ve said behind.

Have you ever opened your mouth and ruined everything?